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Feedback is a gift that I would rather receive than give

September 18, 2025 Michael Troy
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The conference room felt smaller than usual as I waited, tapping my pen against the performance review form. The "Areas for Improvement" section seemed to glare up at me from the page.

When Marcus walked in, I offered a smile that felt too stiff. We exchanged pleasantries before diving in. I highlighted his strengths first—his creativity, his enthusiasm—watching his proud nod.

Then came the pivot.

"There are some concerns about deadline consistency," I said, my voice steadier than I felt. "The Thompson project was late by two weeks."

His face fell. The silence that followed stretched uncomfortably.

"I thought I was doing fine," he said quietly.

I explained the impact of missed deadlines, suggested time management strategies, and assured him I believed in his potential. Still, his slumped shoulders as he left weighed on me.

That evening, I remembered Sarah, my first manager. How she'd called out my overly zealous desire to take on more projects than I could handle that was causing more harm to progress than benefit. I'd been hurt initially, but her honesty had pushed me to improve.

I sent Marcus a quick email: "I'm here to support your growth. Let's check in next week on those strategies."

His reply came minutes later: "Thanks for being straight with me. I appreciate it more than you know."

Perhaps this was the hardest, most necessary part of leadership—the courage to be honest when it matters most.